Porking….Coitus….Congress….Intercourse

I recently read post about how often women with children are have sex in a relationship and it left me a little disturbed.

Of the 46 comments, 12 are not having sex at all and 13 are having sex 1-2 times per month.

Weekly less than half the amount of women are having sex. 11 are engaging 1-2 times per week, 5 go at it 3-4 times per week, 3 hop on it 5-6 times per week and 2 lucky buggers are engaging every day, 7 days per week.

I believe sex to be a very big part of a healthy relationship. While everyone will have different meanings to what completes the act, we will use to common structure. Two individuals engage in penetration until one/ both are spent.

Now, I don’t mean to judge, but deep issues lie with those that aren’t getting involved at all. This bracket carried the second highest amount of votes. I understand life gets in the way, work, home, kids, family, finances, technology, health, entertainment; it all weighs us down.  The fact is that being in a relationship and not having sex with your partner is happening means things are severely disrupted. This act is there to work as a release, an escape.we all know, if the act is mundane, spice it up. If the act is painful, compromise and teach other what to do. To completely separate yourself from your partner intimately is sad to me. This means you wholly, solely do not want to be touched by someone you once enjoyed. Closed off. What broke? What ruined the joy? What exactly is so bad and is this scary?

Perhaps it is immature to think that you should constantly provide in order to keep your partner, but isn’t this a big part of a relationship? Giving them what they want, satisfying needs only you know how or should know how?

In my own life, as newlyweds we encountered a dry spell which thankfully did not last. It was promptly addressed and the reasoning was that marriage initially felt so final and that marriage stereotypes were playing with our emotions. Neither of us needed to be the textbook spouse and once we settled the dust, we were right back to ‘porking’.

I just can’t imagine a relationship without intimacy and good ol’ lovin’. Worse, once this falls apart, what else will follow? Give in and if you can’t bring yourself to do so, speak up.

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