Breastfeeding woes!

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Avent breast pump

Breastfeeding is best for baby BUT….

I have a low supply but in all honesty sitting to have my son nurse for over an hour is not appealing to me.

In the moments when I am super tired, a bottle is an amazing solution. My husband can take over and bond with baby over his meal. It would be even better if it was an entire bottle of mommy’s milk! So I saw a comprehensive list of ways to boost supply and will be trying a few out myself!

Fenugreek does cause BO and mothers milk tea is great help as well!

Please note: I saw this information on a post in a private moms group on Facebook and wanted to share the love!

I unfortunately cannot tag the individual and none of this is from me:

‘1. Pump, pump, pump. Power pumping which means 15min on 15min off for 1 hour one to two times daily

2. Nursing. Let the baby pacify on you, as nipple stimulation is the key to production

3. Oatmeal. Eat at least one bowl of oatmeal a day.

4. Gallon of water. Yes I know it seems crazy but drink a bottle of water each time you nurse and you will get there!

5. Gatorade. For some reason Gatorade works to up supply. Specifically the blue one breast 3

6. Raw nuts. Snack on raw nuts while breastfeeding. Almonds seem to work best and be suggested often

7. Avocado. Add some avocado to a meal and it will help stimulate production

8. Goats rue, alfalfa supplements, blessed thistle, and lactation blend supplements

9. Fenugreek. I don’t widely suggest this one as it can cause stomach issues in mommy and baby, and weight gain in mommy. Not to forget to mention it makes you smell like maple syrup

10. Mothers milk tea. 3-5 times daily

11. Lactation tonic. Follow instructions but I believe it’s 15-20drops a day

12. Brewers yeast. Yes like in beer. You can actually drink a beer to help up your supply

13. Red raspberry tea is known to help some women

14. Heat compression. Applying heat to your breasts while nursing or pumping is shown to help the milk ducts release easier

15. Hand massage. Hand massage in the shower, while nursing/ pumping helps stimulate your body to think you need more

16. Skin to skin. Skin to skin is important because your boobs react to your baby so if your baby is there is will tell them they should be producing. Try skin to skin for 15min before nursing and while nursing is possible.

17. fruits and veggies of all sorts are known to help as well.

18. Milky tea

19. 3 1/2 tbs of coconut oil daily breast 2

20. Garlic babies love the taste so if your milk is garlicky they will stay latched longer and stimulate your nipples more.

21. Lactation cookies. Eat them all day and these are known to up supply quickly.

24. Flax seed. Add to oatmeal or sprinkle over a salad

25. Coconut water ‘

Burritos Baby!

Sometimes eating gets boring and you have to jazz things up!

We are currently going through a phase where we are tired of rice and other traditional West Indian dishes.

We experimented with tortillas we found in the grocery store and are very pleased with the results.

So listen…..cut up some sweet peppers, red onions, tomatoes, lettuce, mash some avocados and even open a tin of corn. I smeared some mayo on, then I loaded the tortilla with vegetables and topped it with the meat of my choice, rolled the baby up and enjoyed! It is very easy to freestyle with this dish!

We added apples and barbecue chicken breasts to this dish but you can get as fancy with it as you want. We have also put shrimp on the grill and toss those bad boys on as well. A dab of hot sauce and dinner was a win!

 

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Aside

 

Tamayo and Nicole

Wedding date: May 16th, 2010ww2

Wedding theme/uniqueness: Nothing major. Intimate Style  with 15-20 guests.

Best tip: Make purchases but do not say they are for a wedding.  The simple word ‘wedding’ drives up the costs by 100%. Control  every single part of the planning in order to ensure that things are  done the way you want and there is no debating with people who  don’t see or understand your vision. Take everything in strides.  Your budget will change many times, even with our small wedding,  our budget changed at least 2 times. List everything, when emotions start running high, you will not have a complete handle on things and may forget a few things. Do not buy bridal magazines, they are product placement magnets.

 Economical trade-off:  If you don’t have to buy/use real flowers,  then build your own bouquets. Also, utilize people in your family  that have a touch for the crafts or can sew. You will save yourself  the  head ache of running behind people who aren’t fulfilling what  you’re paying for and save on a lot of minor changes that would have otherwise be costly. Utilize Shutterfly!

Wedding day horror: My mother burned my wedding veil! I had to run out and get a new one.

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Definite splurge: The bride and groom outfits, when you look good, you will definitely feel good. Be creative with the food and liquor! This will be memorable and guests will filled tummies make the best memories. Also, pictures and videos done professionally makes quite a difference!

Ceremony tip: Don’t have the officiant/pastor do it all. Ask people close to you to do various things, like a readinww4g or a song. It breaks up the service and introduces new elements to the ceremony. Also, experiment with different forms of entertainment. We had a saxophonist for the ceremony as opposed to someone just playing a popular song.

Reception tip:
Don’t sit too far from your guests. The bridal party will be too tired and unacquainted to entertain you. Plus, you want to be in on those jokes from the various tables.

Guest tip: Get them involved and over feed them!

Honeymoon:  Didn’t have one:-(….SOOO MAYBE HAVE ONE! LOL

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Marriage and Loneliness…

This is a flashback post that was written November 18th, 2013.

Marriage and loneliness is common; but not acceptable. You married for a companion that will walk with you through all the curves and turns of life. Loneliness is the result at the failed attempt to connect with a partner that is not compromising. Loneliness is not acceptable. We have heard, ‘I’m always here’ but don’t feel emotionally connected there. All bills are paid, appearances are maintained and there isn’t a single hint of going through disaster in your marriage; but yet your soul is in torment.

A companion is very important and the most key thing about gaining and keeping one is being tolerant and open. Listen and pay attention to what you are doing, what you aren’t doing. Women want you to read their minds; make an attempt, we were wired this way. Be tolerant and speak respectfully; apologize. Insignificant spats are small jabs that wear away the heart as the more frustration and feeling defeated builds; the more distance develops.

Be compassionate in a marriage. Look directly at your lover and flirt shamelessly. She is yours to do what you will but only if she can stand you. A woman who is dedicated to a man would never leave. She however will feel beaten by frustration and attempts to just be happy with her spouse. Hold her hand and trust her, she will always look out for your best interest before hers.lonely

Concentrate. Be so invested in loving her and showing her love through every moment that you aren’t able to bring yourself to a place filled with wrath or a need to attack. Women always need to build themselves up in order to make it through the day, as other women are their harshest critics and one snide glance will shatter their self-esteem. They are needy creatures and you will need to shower them with affection. When the world spits on them, be their clutch.

The cost to have a great marriage is free. Things that whither or ends or even moments, won’t stop her from leaving you mentally, emotionally or spiritually. It’s connecting to her heart that will. Promises and words are your worst enemies and there is nothing worst that having hope unfulfilled. Actions alone will keep her open to you. Those glances, those forehead kisses, that random hand hold, that light touch just because, those warm hugs from those big strong hands and that big belly busting laughter from silly conversations.

Help her: put her shoes on, brush her hair, button that top, zipping those boots and by taking over getting her undressed.  Free. The blushes and flushed redness that automates every time she sees you; a win. A wife for life.

Don’t become a roommate. Be the man of the house. Take charge, create order, protect her and have her feel safe. Safe from things falling on her from the shelf she can’t reach, cutting her hand from fighting with that can, falling over bags being lugged from the store and the darkness at times when she feels most vulnerable.

Believing in yourself is important, yes! Trusting what she believes you are is even more important. Listen to how she sees you and accept it, love her for loving you despite all you have been or is. She married you because you were good enough and met her standards; don’t ever let her question that decision and when she speaks about her feelings for you; thank her. She does not have to love you, 4 kids, a mortgage, a couple of cars, investments, stocks, bonds, homes, famous friends, exotic vacations, making enough so that she doesn’t have to overwork, even your mother  can’t stop her from detaching her love.

Your wife will always go without in order for you to have. Don’t berate her for her choices, converse. Speak softly, speak openly and be kind….

The First Trimester

This is a flashback post that was written on September 21, 2014.

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We found out on daddys’ birthday!

As my 1st trimester comes to an end, I wanted to provide insight on these world wind days and nights. I first and foremost must thank my support system and even though those one too many ‘how are you feeling today?’ drives me nuts, I absolutely feel loved and cared for. Most importantly, I allow others to ask, then I go into the gruesome details and just lay it all on them.

There have been days where I just wanted to sit still for the remaining months. Just, sit, midst a million pillows under a fountain of water and let the cool mist wash my body. The mere fact that I can’t feel my child is enough torture, yet every visit, my doctor informs me of new information. These moments we absolutely live for.

I never imagined myself to be frumpy looking, but during this time, I dreaded combing my hair (also delayed washing it for as long as I could), my legs, privates, arms and eyebrows were overgrown. I felt like I stunk, and some days I did when my deodorant dispersed on those more hectic days. I tried to stay optimistic. I tried to think positive and thought I was doing a great job until a dear friend asked me to not hate life right now. I decided in that moment to deal with my sadness in silence, I became more reserved and this led me to realize that I was stealing joy from those around me.

We have waiting 7 long years for this moment and there is no way I could be ungrateful. There is also no way we could handle any negativity in these precious times and so we shared this news with a chosen few. These chosen few have been my strength, without them even knowing it. There was always something they were looking forward to, or jokes at my expense around the things I will be going through and will no longer be able to do. Let’s not talk about how daddy always seems to get off Scott free!

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7/8 weeks old

I am anticipating a lot of things during this journey, mainly the most popular stuff. I did not anticipate the fatigue. The hunger. The constipation, gas, cramps or nausea. I’ve been blessed to have missed the vomiting, but I believe the early morning restlessness makes up for this. No one speaks on how not fun being pregnant is. My innards have been thrown for a loop and every time I think I’m getting the hang of things, something new pops up. The fatigue has caused me to feel useless and depressed at how little I can do in my life right now, for myself and my family. The hunger hits at the worst and most random times. This has been the most powerful issue, as when it hits, you literally feel like your stomach is being mauled by gastric juices. There is also the fact that everyone tells you what and how much to eat, but you genuinely cannot get your mouth open to eat a bit of it. So, you give in, to the fried greasy goodness, even at 3am!

Thankfully the constipation does not hurt, there is more a feeling of heaviness that you are dragging around, and when you finally go; you feel like a new woman! The gas has the very same effect, with each one you let free, a few pounds get lifted off your shoulder. Cramps have been mild but very concerning. The nausea however is that monkey on your back! It keeps you up, it wakes you up and it makes you absolutely positively miserable! Hot water and lemon/lime has been nice, but as with everything else you get tired of the site of another frickin lime/lemon!

If you are a working mom, you have an added torture. The minimal weight gain is understandable, but the rapid speed at how nothing fits and feels tight is not. You cannot even suck your stomach in without the sensation that you are about to gag. I’ve worn elastic bands around the buttons and button holes of my jeans and have improvised with dresses and sweaters. The added torture is your growing bump not quite fitting comfortably under your desk and as such pushes you away from your work station. Finally, those co-workers that drop hints and make weight–related comments you fight so desperately not to fall asleep around; that fatigue will give you away!

All in all, I’ve been blessed with a loving husband, who has asked me to just sit still so he can take care of his babies. I tried to put up a fight, but have been reduced to sitting still for a couple of hours waiting for these first trimester gifts to pass. I could not do this without him and even though I was being strong headed, he has been so right in letting me know, I just can’t handle certain things right now. This is far from what I live to hear about myself, but is a very honest experience that comes with this trimester. Though you try with all your might, making a stop on the way home, waking up to pee, trying to find something that fits, picking things out of your now expanding navel and simple thinking of leaving your house is just something you can’t handle right now, especially all at once! Somehow though, we make it happen and that, that my loves, is the one piece of strength that lets you know, you will be able to do this.

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Doting dad!

The Fourth Trimester

fourth 2   Well….the fourth trimester is over and baby no longer needs me. I know, I’m dramatic. That’s how it feels though. He’s now trying to hold his own bottle and sit up. Pretty soon he will be walking out of here and I will have a mini heart attack every time he is out of my sight. I did not prepare myself for motherhood. Yes, we chose Pampers over Huggies and almost cleared out our registry, but I didn’t prepare my emotions. I’m used to smothering hubby with love until he has to come up for air and chase me away, but he can take care of himself. I never read a single book about newborns or how to take care of newborns, mainly because pregnancy was a bit of an information overload. I was exhausted from how much you needed to know, let alone keep up with! I had just decided to wing it as I believed having the child here would be much easier. I wasn’t entirely wrong and to be fair, I don’t believe anyone can quite aptly put into words what it is like to become a parent. Probably it’s best too, as in the first stages, you will regret this decision many times, then carry the guilt of even having these thoughts.

I enjoyed the fourth trimester though it was whirlwind. fourth 4

Mentally it took work to keep my focus on baby and not get trapped into the stereotypes or post-partum depression. It also took a lot of growing up and telling myself that I don’t need to be up to date with everything going on in the world right now. I needed to nurture the relationships I could stand for those moments when I needed adult interaction. I needed to maintain my usual level of calm, especially in the presence of the baby in order to not cause distrust or unnecessary alarm. I also had to learn to trust the process, get to know MY child and follow his lead, not the charts or the norm or what other parents were doing or advised to do. I also learned to divvy up my brain and adjust to dealing and supporting daddy and seamlessly easing into dealing with ad supporting baby. It was quite interesting to argue in front of the baby (life happens) but we have since mastered this art without even breaking his smile. I have also become a more supportive woman to other women, immediately I want to carry the burden of every mother I see. I smile and give reassurance every chance I get to other mothers because the job is so thankless and filled with so much judgement! People don’t for one second think maybe she does things differently based on just her culture alone, or religion or belief system or gut/motherly instinct-natures guide. Everyone has an ‘I’m right, do it now’ mentality and I’ll be damned if I even believe this for one second when each child is so different! Finally, I had decided to smile every time I was in the presence of my child regardless of how I was feeling and surprisingly he has learned to do the same.

fourth 3Physically my body is nowhere near where I would like it to be, but checking myself out in the mirror every day is
awe inspiring. In the first couple weeks it needed extra care and I was sure to listen to my body and take things easy, especially since I had a c-section. I did push it though, but no more than I could manage. In the latter part of the trimester, I have not been eating as well or getting in the required amounts of water to boost my breast milk supply but I have learned when best to let baby nurse and have realized that formula is needed for both of us. I have made a plan to eat cleaner and can’t wait to kick things into high gear. I believe I am done filling up on all the things I couldn’t while pregnant and is regaining some normalcy in my diet. I am losing my hair but is not quite ready to make a big chop just yet. I know I have a lot of work to do body-wise but time will be my friend.

Emotionally I am a wreck, but you wouldn’t know. It’s a ‘joy’ of motherhood I believe. I worry worry worry worry fourthworry worry worry worry worry and worry some more, every hour, all hours.  I worry about all things. It’s amazing how I make it through the day, but somehow I manage and pat myself on the back for holding things down. I still think babies should be born speaking but have made peace with that idea. Plus, the challenge of rearing an infant is sure to change you for the better. There are skills/characteristics to develop such as patience, acceptance, becoming
more reserved and learning to be grateful. If for once in your life, you really learn to just slow down! Take care of your heart and enjoy all things around you.